"What score do you study for?"

[TayTay]

mrs.b-
Taylor, Publius, & Others,

I can definitely respect your perspectives, and to a degree, agree with some of them. Definitely not throwing stones! It's a personal thing, of course.

Most of the time, while studying, I would tell myself, "You could pass the test today. Just go!" But, I feel that part of my job as a parent is being a role model, beyond feeding, clothing, sheltering, and teaching him how to be a good person. We encourage our son to do his best - he does not have to be perfect, nor does he have to bring home all A's (which is good, because he doesn't, and that's okay) - but he does need to apply himself and try his hardest. I always asked myself, "what would he think if he knew I was taking a shortcut?" He's special needs - Autistic - and things are very black and white, no grayscale in his world. On paper, a pass was a pass, whether it was a 51 or 80. My conscience just nagged at me until I put in the extra effort, because if he knew I stopped short of my best, it would be excuse for him to do the same which would be unacceptable. The extra one to three weeks (while enrolled in three online classes, so definitely not focused effort) was enough to satisfy my nagging conscience.

To each their own, of course. My "pass" looks just like anyone else's on our transcripts, and so long as we're each good with our reasons, motivations, and ultimate outcomes, we each only answer to ourselves in the long run.

mrs.b-

Like I said, I see where you coming from! I really think it is great that you are such a good example for your son and you teach him to strive to achieve! (Good characteristics!) You put forth the "extra effort" for a high score, while some put forth the "extra effort" to take the exams quickly as possible. So, I guess it's a win-win situation for all! I agree..."to each their own!" Everyone is different and has diverse goals. I respect everyone's opinion and think there are great pluses to each way of studying... Again, thanks to all for their comments!!! Looks like it's about 50/50 on studying preferences...